Truth be told, it was downright laughable.
I saw it, and read it, and laughed at how absurd it is that people still think it’s okay to say this kind of thing to one another, let alone to people they’ve never even met in their lives. It was obnoxious, and comical, and sad.
I wrote a piece for Thought Catalog about which emoji were missing from the arsenal, and it was silly. It was fun. My God, I made my case for why a bacon emoji should exist, and I’m vegan. This piece was by no means my magnum opus, and somebody still recommended that if this was how I was devoting my time to writing, I should kill myself. Literally. (They said that, not me, as if I, a writer, might confuse their death wish as a simple hyperbole for maybe giving up writing humor pieces.)
I usually make it a point to not read the comments, as they’re mostly where human decency goes to die, but I read these comments. It was a lighthearted piece, what could be so bad about it? But there it was.
I’m not linking to it, because commenting on their comment would just be ridiculous, and I have little desire to start a war against this person who thinks it’s actually okay to say that kind of thing to other people. Because what if I was suicidal? I’ve been depressed. I still struggle with depression from time to time. I spend a hell of a lot of time struggling with my writing. I often wonder if I’m good enough, or if I’m not absolutely nuts for pursuing this full-time.
Thank God I didn’t read this comment on a bad day, because who knows what kind of downward spiral it would have sent me on?
I understand that some people are just deluded enough to think that saying something so hurtful is acceptable, because it’s just the Internet, right? It’s just words, right? Nothing you say from the cushy anonymity behind your computer screen will actually have a tangible effect in this world. But it does. And children and adults lose their minds stressing over the hurtful things directed at them. They take their own lives because of it.
Suggesting that I — or really, anyone ever — do the same isn’t just overreacting. It’s wrong.
I am 24 years old. I am a loud human being. I laugh daily, hourly if I can. I have a family whom I love dearly, no matter if I love them more from 3000 miles away. I have eleven tattoos, one black cat who likes to jettison herself off my living room walls, and I take my coffee black. I spent two years of my life as a nanny to three very wonderful children, and now I’m doing what I’ve been doing ever since I was a little girl: I’m writing.
And these facts may all seem like random little trivia questions, or something you might learn about me on a first date, but these things are also what make me as my own person. They’re what make me human. You wouldn’t shoot another person, would you? I hope you wouldn’t, at any rate. Why would you tell somebody to kill themselves?
It would be so easy to ignore it, to simply say “Hi, haters, I’m still writing!” because I have been, and I’ll continue to write for Thought Catalog, especially in the coming months. But it’s been sitting uneasy with me because it’s wrong. I am lucky in that I have a strong enough skin to know it’s a ridiculous thing to tell somebody, and it’s ridiculous to take personally. But I know a lot of people who might be a little less confident, and who might take it to heart. And it would be awful if they did, because the world needs their voices.
The world needs your voice.
Don’t waste it with words that are as dangerous and hurtful as that.@1 week ago with 23 notes
claireangelineh asked: Green juice for beginners? Where to buy it? WHAT to buy? :)
Lordy, I could write a primer on this but I think the fail-safe is the Evolution Fresh sweet greens with lemon they sell at Starbucks. It has apple in it to cut the “lawn” taste, and it’s pretty easily found anywhere. (At the risk of being too niche Local 1205 in Los Angeles and Juice Press in New York are my favorites.)
If you get it fresh, I really like adding lemon and ginger to my green juice, and I always go light on the apple. Whatever you buy, read the ingredients to make sure you know if you’re getting a juice or a smoothie since some brands are just fruit smoothies with microgreen powders added in. Whatever the case, just remember that while juice is a great way to get nutrients, you need solid food (and the fiber that juice often doesn’t have). Would I recommend a five day juice cleanse? No. Would I recommend it to help take the edge off of a hangover? Definitely.
I mean, I’m not saying I get hangovers. But I’m not not saying that, either. In any case, it helps.@2 weeks ago with 3 notes